We’ve been talking about Disney quite a bit for some reason. Can’t quite put my finger on it…
Anyway, I thought I’d look at the “Dads” part of our Club name today. We formed this group and share a love of both Disney and family at least in part because we’re invested in our kids. We’re spending time with them, coaching their sports teams, planning adventures, and hoping beyond hope they turn out to be happy, healthy, productive members of society that make us proud. Bonus points if they can also belch the alphabet.
So, I wanted to post the question to you guys. What things are you trying hardest to teach your children? What’s most important to pass on as a Dad? Here are 5 of mine:
- Faith. This will be different for many of us, I’m sure. But if I have views on the meaning of life, the afterlife, morality, etc., chances are they’re important to me and shape my worldview. So you’d better believe I’m going to want to share that with my kids. I find the hard part in this is to do it in a way that encourages them to think critically and consider all of the arguments, rather than simply dictating to them.
- A Love of Adventure. This is sometimes hard as well, because it translates to, “Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things.” And sometimes I don’t do well with that–I never graduated from a 9-year-old’s average diet. Nevertheless, I want them to embrace challenges and experiences, and of course to see the world.
- How Not To Throw Like A Girl. Isn’t this the job of every American dad? Even my daughter now knows how to step into a throw.
- It’s OK to Go Against The Grain. On some issues, I believe there is an absolute right and wrong. But we get wrapped up in so many other things that aren’t important. I want my kids to wear the clothes they like, not the ones everyone else is wearing. It’s ok to hang out with the kids who (gasp) like reading books or science museums. It’s ok not to want to buy the latest Justin Bieber album. In fact, it’s ok not to know who Justin Bieber is. On a related note, anybody have any tips on how to skip the junior high years?
- How to Be A Servant. The world is full of selfish people with a sense of entitlement who demand everything be handed to them on a platter. The world desperately needs more hard workers who put the needs of others or the whole ahead of their own. I really hope my kids are the latter.
Naturally, there are several items on this list that I could do a better job of applying to my own life!
Anyway, that’s my list. What do you want your kids to learn from you?