So here is a little about the mistakes we made on first trip to Disney with our teen monsters. Let me give you a little background before I start. I know that there are more DisDads out there that have done the same thing that I want to warn you about. Maybe this will prevent you that are about to take your teens for the first time from making our mistakes.
Here is the line up
My wife Azure 33
My eldest Christine 16
My middle boy shadoe 14
My younges electra 13
Some of The Biggest Mistakes You Can Make Planning Your First Trip To Disney With Teens.
Don’t build your trip up too much.
I can certainly attest one of the biggest mistakes we made when planning our first trip with our teens was telling them how much there is to do, see, how big and fabulous Disney World is. I know this may sound evil but my wife and I went to Disneyworld by ourselves twice before we decided to take our teens so we just couldn’t hold our excitement to be able to show them the World. They expected this magical wonderland with unicorns and rainbows. What they received was Disney World. What we had accomplished was raising their expectations to a point that no place could ever live up to it. When we arrived at our resort (the Polynesian) everything seemed to fall apart from there.
Planning too much for each day.
From our experience, teens do not like being told where they are going and what they will eat. The first trip we purchased the Deluxe Dining plan and set up two Table Service meals for every single day that we were on vacation. As you can imagine after the first day we had to force them with great protest to sit at yet another meal. By the end of our trip we were all saying “no not another ADR… Epcot.. Coral Reef… “Every meal was like fighting an angry beaver.
Not planning time for the family to go their separate ways.
We never even thought about walking, eating, traveling and sleeping in the same place the whole vacation. Try living in your living room with your entire family for an entire week. By the time you are done you will know everything you could ever not want to know about your teens.
Not planning a date night out.
Making your vacation all about your Teens, can turn into a grueling chore. We felt that we had to entertain them every minute of every day. After our first trip we realized that this vacation is not showing our kids how much fun they can have, rather this is a vacation! I learned that our teens won’t melt if we leave them to walk around Epcot while we have a leisurely meal at Le Cellier! Letting them stay at the resort while we head to California Grill.
Letting anger and frustration build.
Because our teens were still looking for the unicorns, they were bored with the “normal” Magic Kingdom. We just couldn’t stand it! We never said what we heard from others. “We spent all this money and your bored” line but we definitely said it to each other. By the end of our trip my wife was crying, I was angry, and the kids were still bored! LoL.
Not planning a day of rest at the resort.
We wanted all we could get for our money! We wanted to make every rope drop and do every EMH that was available. Don’t do it! I really worked harder on our first vacation with teens than I do at work! I remember distinctly. “Can we stay and swim at the resort”. My response “nooo we have park tickets” mumbling under my breath “we paid all this money and all they want to do is swim?” we realize now “what the heck, lets hang at the resort we are on vacation”.
Not giving them their own space.
No matter how cool of a dad you think you are. You’re not! My son and eldest daughter met these nice kids in Epcot. I was thinking how cool it would be to just “hang with my Hommies”. As the day went on I heard the “nice kids” ask my daughter, “why are your parents following us”. Our teens carry cell phones so really there was no reason to be the creepy parents.